We’re commanded to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Nowhere is that truer than in our choice of a spouse.
2 Samuel 9 & 10
2 Samuel 9 & 10:
Don’t be unequally yoked
Chapters 9 & 10 give us a glimpse of David’s heart—first as he showed kindness to Mephibosheth as a way of honoring his covenant with Jonathan and in chapter 10 as he sent representatives to comfort Hanun at the time of his father’s death.
Sadly, David’s gesture toward Hanun was not only rejected, but met with ridicule by Hanun when he shamed and humiliated David’s ambassadors. Should we be surprised when our gestures of peace and kindness are met with rejection? Those in the world often find it hard to believe we don’t have ulterior motives, because of what’s in their own hearts.
But this is also a reminder that we can’t “make friends” with the world. “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” (2 Cor. 6.14).
We are to love them biblically, pray for them, and share God’s truth, but not be “yoked together” with them. This means dating, marriage, partnerships, and other close associations, especially those that require agreement on decisions, seeking advice, etc.
Nowhere is this truer than in our choice of a spouse. Paul said if you’re single you’re free to marry but only “in the Lord” (1 Cor. 7.39).
However, if you’re already married to an unbeliever, you’re not to divorce him or her. You’re to live for Christ and allow your godly behavior to be all the more evident (1 Cor. 7.12-14; 1 Pet. 3.1-2). Continue reading