SEX … it’s everywhere! It’s in commercials, situation comedies, on billboards, even subtly injected into children’s movies.
And yet … the questions we most want to ask, we find too embarrassing, especially as Christian women.
Intimate Issues tackles that problem in an open, honest, sensitive way. Linda and Lorraine are two godly, mature Christian wives. I attended one of their conferences years ago and also had the privilege of hosting Linda in my home. She is just as real and honest in person. She loves the Lord and seeks to honor Him even in this delicate topic. I know Lorraine has the same heart.
Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is Anger & Stress Management God’s Way by Wayne Mack.
Anger and Stress: Who hasn’t struggled with one or both of them at some time? And if we don’t learn to get them under control, they can cause a lifetime of damage.
Most of us know people who’ve been told they need “anger management,” but anger is ultimately a heart issue and if we don’t learn to manage it God’s way it will just show up somewhere else.
Stress is usually quieter, but can rob us of the peace and joy that can and should be ours.
I have used Dr. Mack’s book many times in counseling, but it can be used very effectively by individuals and couples, as well. It’s very readable, practical, and can be life changing for those looking for God’s truth in this area.
From the introduction:
Anger! Stress! These are two words that are used frequently in the course of our daily lives. They’re so commonly used because they describe a very common phenomenon. Who of us has not been on the giving and receiving end of anger? Unfortunately, the same is true of stress. We all know people or perhaps we’re the people who have been “stressed out.” Well, whether it’s anger or stress, we are all too familiar with the experience. Who of us has never observed or even been a participant in the devastating consequences of either of these two destroyers?
Yes, I call them destroyers because that’s what they are and do. Nothing good has ever come out of mishandled stress or sinful anger. Scripture says, “Wrath is fierce and anger a flood” (Proverbs 27: 4). How picturesque and how true is this description of sinful anger. An unbiblical kind of anger is like a flood that destroys people and property. Truly, “the wrath of man does not achieve the righteousness of God” (James 1: 20). In fact, it does the opposite. It never does anything good, but it surely does a lot of damage. So we must learn how to control it, or it will destroy us and other people either literally or figuratively.
Likewise, it can be said that stress is much like anger in its effects on the individual and his relationships with people. Eustress (good stress – a certain amount of concern) is good, but eustress can quickly and easily become distress, which by definition is that which causes sorrow, misery, pain or suffering.
The eight chapters that follow are full of practical information about the differences between sinful anger and righteous anger, the roots of stress, the consequences of mishandling anger and stress, and “the way of escape” from sinful ways of responding to the stressors and trigger points of life. Each truth is backed up with Scripture references.
One of the most helpful chapters contains six diagnostic questions to help us get to the Continue reading →
Christians and depression: We don’t often think both of those words should describe us. Yet, for some us, that is or has been our experience. Robert Somerville has written a great resource, describing a dark time in his life, the stories of others, and the hope found in Christ, the Gospel, and the Word of God.
From Somerville’s introduction:
I am endeavoring in this book to write about what I experienced and what I learned in the one foray into deep depression through which I journeyed. I pray that I will never have to pass that way again! It was a dreadful experience, some of which is hard to remember because I was so far out of it so as not to have a clear recollection of it. Many other parts are hard to remember because it is humbling to think of the wildness and incoherence of my thoughts and doubts. The chapter titles are the questions that I wrestled with.
When C.S. Lewis set out to write his autobiography Surprised by Joy he said “I have been emboldened to write of it because I notice that a man seldom mentions what he had supposed to be his own most idiosyncratic sensations without receiving from at least one (often more) of those present the reply, ‘What! Have you felt that too? I always thought I was the only one.’”1
How encouraging it is for those struggling with faith to read how Lewis was dragged by God over the threshold of faith, kicking and screaming and went on to inspire faith in millions! Likewise, each time I speak on the subject of depression and share some of my most humbling and even reviling thoughts that went through my mind in the depths of the depression, I have at least one (often more) come to me following the session and state “I have had those same thoughts! I know how you felt because I have been there! I have never shared my thoughts with anyone else because I didn’t think anyone would understand, and I believed I would be condemned!”
Could you be that one? Have you struggled with the dark feelings of depression? Continue reading →
I’m frequently asked about good devotionals for couples. Sweethearts for a Lifetime is one of my favorites.
Wayne and Carol Mack have been married almost 50 years. Wayne was a pastor for many of those years. He has taught college and graduate school courses in biblical counseling at The Master’s College and Seminary; Westminster Theological Seminary, Biblical Seminary and the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation. He has conducted seminars and conferences and been the Director of a Counseling Center and Training School. He is a charter member of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (formerly NANC).
He and Carol are both Certified Biblical Counselors and and have done hours and hours of counseling. Their ministry has helped many couples throughout the years and, through this book, that wisdom and insight is available to us.
Who would benefit from a book like this?
Maybe you’ve been married for decades. Maybe you’re a newlywed. Maybe you already know your marriage needs some work. Maybe your marriage is basically solid, but like all marriages, can use ongoing tuneups to keep things running smoothly. Maybe you and your spouse aren’t a divorce statistic, but have long since ceased to be sweethearts. Or maybe you’re engaged and don’t want your marriage to end up like so many others. Is this book for you?
Yes … yes … and yes!
What can you expect to find?
The book is divided into three sections. Part 1 covers the six P’s of a good marriage relationship. Parts 2 and 3 discuss how to be a fulfilled and fulfilling husband and wife, respectively.
The chapters are short, making it possible to do one each day. Many include inventories and assessments to help you see where your marriage needs work and most have Continue reading →