“For Women Only: The Inner Lives of Men” + LINKUP


For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of MenWelcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn.


I probably recommend Shaunti’s book, For Women Only, as much as any book in my counseling arsenal. There are other books that are more in depth biblically, even other books on the role of the wife that do a better job of explaining from the Scriptures what God has to say about our role. But I find that the one thing women who want to be godly wives struggle with most often is understanding just what we do that our husbands perceive as disrespect. And Shaunti’s book does the best job of helping us do just that!

That isn’t the only thing you’ll come to understand about the inner lives of men. Reading this book will probably provide you with numerous “aha” moments.

From Chapter 1:

Have you ever been totally confused by something the man in your life has said or done? Have you ever wondered, looking at his rapidly departing back, Why did that make him so angry? Have you ever been perplexed by your husband’s defensiveness when you ask him to stop working so much? Yeah? Me too.

But now, after conducting spoken and written interviews with more than one thousand men, I can tell you that the answers to those and dozens of other common perplexities are all related to what is going on in your man’s inner life. Most are things he wishes you knew but doesn’t know how to tell you. In some cases, they’re things he has no idea you don’t know. This book will share those interviews and those answers. But be careful, ladies. You might be slapping your forehead a lot!

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“Submission = Great Faith” April 3


submission = great faith

What does your respect for authority, or lack of it, say about your faith? Do you have great faith or a heart that trusts in what seems right to you? And what are you teaching your children about submission to authority, either by instruction or by example?


Today’s Readings:
Deuteronomy 29 & 30
Psalm 40.1-5
Proverbs 13.9-10
Luke 7.1-30


Luke 7.1-30:

Great faith

I love the story of the centurion and his servant in verses 2-10. This centurion understood the principle of authority. Jesus equated his respect for and understanding of authority with “great faith.”

authorityWhen we respect and submit to the authority God has placed us under, we, too, are demonstrating our faith and trust in Him. And conversely when we don’t, we’re demonstrating a lack of faith and trust. We’re making ourselves the determinant of what is good. This is true in the home and at school, in the workplace, in the church, and in civil society.

Proverbs 14.12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”

Understanding authority from a Biblical perspective, is important to your relationships with God and others. May God give us understanding hearts and a willingness to obey and trust Him no matter what.


Today’s Other Readings:

Deuteronomy 29 & Deuteronomy 30:

When we fail to seek understanding

In chapter 29.2-9 Moses was recounting what God did for them those 40 years in the desert:

“You have seen all that the LORD did before your eyes in the land of Egypt, to Pharaoh and to all his servants and to all his land—the great trials which your eyes have seen, the signs, and those great wonders. Yet the LORD has not given you a heart to perceive and eyes to see and ears to hear, to this very day.”

In his Daily Bible, John MacArthur says, “The Lord had not given them an understanding heart, simply because the people had not penitently sought it.”

Marilee Bible study Scripture memory cardWhat have you not “seen” because you have not sought it? God desires to show us more and more, to take us deeper and deeper into His truth, for us to know Him better and better, but we must want it, seek it, and ask Him for it. Do you study God’s Word with that attitude?

In Matthew 7.7-8 Jesus says, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.”

But on the other hand verse 29.29 reminds us that there are things God has not yet revealed to us and, while we can pray for answers and understanding, we’re not to seek to know things apart from the Him. You can read my post from a few weeks ago about fortune telling and witchcraftContinue reading