So What’s Wrong with Living Together? + LINKUP

 

Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is one that our world, but more importantly those in the church, need to hear.

 

So Whats Wrong with Living Together?: A Biblical Response to Cohabitation by Jeffrey S. Miller

 

So What's Wrong with Living Together?

So … what is wrong with living together? Everyone is doing it! Sadly, even couples who consider themselves Christians.

Is a marriage license just a piece of paper and marriage something people created? What if we’re really committed to each other or are planning to get married eventually?

In 37 easily readable pages, Jeffrey Miller presents the loving biblical answer to those questions and many more. And he does so without being judgmental or condemning.

In chapter 2 he says:

The Bible does not explicitly say “Living together is a sin.” Despite a popular misconception, the Bible isn’t a book of rules, containing endless lists of everything God says is okay and everything God says is not okay. Though we do see passages of clear “do’s and don’ts” (like the Ten Commandments in Exodus chapter 20), the Bible often gives principles concerning our conduct.

He goes on:

Throughout the Bible, God gives clear principles on His design and intentions for sexuality and marriage. We could list all the things God is against when it comes to sexual relationships, such as homosexuality, bestiality, polygamy, etc. (and in fact the Bible does mention God’s feelings toward such things).

But, as the author points out, we love loopholes.

And when we come to the Bible, we have a tendency to do the same. Have you ever said (or thought):

“I know what the Bible says, but technically …”

“The Bible may say that, but what that really means is …”

“I know ________ is wrong, but the Bible doesn’t say anything about _________.”

When Satan tempted Eve in the Garden, he started by questioning God’s Word. Nothing much has changed.

… in God’s infinite wisdom, He did something better (and easier) for us. Instead of giving us list after list of what He doesn’t want for us concerning sexuality and marriage, God instead gives us His blueprint for how he intended sexuality and marriage to be in the first place.

Mr. Miller goes on to explain God’s plan for marriage beginning in Genesis 2 and how He intends for it to be an “exclusive, inseparable relationship between the man and the woman.” He goes on:

We must also notice that God didn’t create one man, take twelve of his ribs to make twelve women, telling Adam, “Hey, try them out, sow your oats, see which one you like, or maybe you’ll decide on more than one.” Nor did God create twelve men for Eve to “play the field” until she decided which man would make her the happiest. God made one man–for one woman–for one lifetime. At creation, God deliberately set this pattern for marriage commitment with the very first couple.

The author then goes on to talk about Jesus’ teaching on marriage, beginning with his condemnation of the Pharisees and their low view of marriage (Matt. 19.3-9) and then walking us through His encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well (Jn. 4.5-26).

… Jesus was reaching out to her and offering her the better way, the first thing He pointed out to her was the fact that her life was caught up in one bad relationship after another, husband after husband, and the man she was currently living with was not her husband.

… we discover in the Bible that Jesus Christ Himself actually encountered someone who was living in that situation. And … He didn’t affirm it as a good alternative to marriage.

Jesus is proclaiming that people are missing God’s plan (and blessing) for marriage when they don’t view divorce, relationships, and cohabitation as God Himself does.

In chapter 5 the author addresses the common responses to criticism of living together:

“But we love each other…”

“We will end up getting married eventually anyways …”

“We are committed to each other …”

“We are married in God’s eyes, why does it matter if we have the license? It’s just a piece of paper! And why do we have to have a ceremony?”

“We have to do it for financial reasons …”

“Everybody is doing it these days …”

“You wouldn’t buy a care without test driving it, would you? Isn’t living together before you get married like test driving a car? You know, try it out, make sure it works …”

Finally, Mr. Miller gives the reader what he calls “the great news”:  Continue reading

“God, Authority & Speeding Tickets” August 14

 

God, Authority & Speeding Tickets - God is a God of order and He ordains authority as part of His order. No matter what we think, we are not fully submitted to God if we aren't submitted to the authority He has placed in our lives.God is a God of order and He ordains authority as part of His order. No matter what we think, we are not fully submitted to God if we aren’t submitted to the authority He has placed in our lives.

 

Today’s Readings:
Job 19 & 20
Psalm 95.6-11
Proverbs 23.4-5
Romans 13.1-14

 

God, Authority & Speeding Tickets

 

Romans 13.1-14:

Submitting to Authority

This is a very clear passage regarding authority. Scripture says all authority comes from God (v. 1). That could be a school teacher over a student, a boss over an employee, a husband over a wife, a pastor or elder over a church member, or a civic official over a citizen. Whatever it is, God expects us to respect and obey that authority. The only exception is if that person asks us to break God’s laws, then we must humbly and respectfully refuse to obey.

We should be teaching our children to respect the authority God has placed them under at school or any place else. Sadly, today many parents are quick to run to their children’s defense instead of teaching them to respond biblically.

But respect for authority begins with us and, sadly, we are often more concerned about what we perceive as our “rights,” than about being pleasing to God! We can’t expect our children to respect authority, including ours, if we are disrespectful to our spouses, police officers or bosses!

policeman ticketFor example, how do you respond when you get stopped for speeding or some other violation? Are you concerned about justifying your behavior or denying your guilt? Or are you more concerned about pleasing God and trusting in His sovereignty?

How do you respond when passed over for a promotion or criticized at work? Are you more concerned about whether or not it’s fair or are you concerned about giving your co-workers the right opinion about God?  Continue reading