“To Spank or Not to Spank” August 18

 

To Spank or Not to Spank? - To spank or not to spank? Should physical discipline be a part of today's parenting? What is your source of truth on the subject? If you spank, what should be your attitude when doing so?To spank or not to spank? Should physical discipline be a part of today’s parenting? What is your source of truth on the subject? If you spank, what should be your attitude when doing so?

Also read about the importance of not criticizing, complaining or being divisive withing the church body … and … when and how it’s right to disagree.

 

Today’s Readings:
Job 27 & 28
Psalm 97.1-6
Proverbs 23.13-14
Romans 16.1-27

 

To Spank or Not to Spank?

 

Proverbs 23.13-14:

What is your source of truth?

 

“Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell.”

bible reading manI know these are hard verses for some and something that flies in the face of much of the current child psychology.

As with other areas of thought, psychologists say one thing and God’s Word says another. We must each answer the question, “What is your source of truth?”

That was God’s question to Adam and Eve.

God had said, “Don’t eat the fruit for if you do you will surely die.” Then Satan came along and said, “You will not surely die, but you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

The passage goes on to say that their eyes were opened and they saw that “they were naked.” God’s question to them was, “Who told you that you were naked?” In other words, what or who is your source of truth?

Of course, we must remember that Scripture is to be interpreted in light of other Scripture. Ephesians 6.4 says, “… do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” We must have the right heart attitude when we discipline our children. God does not want us to discipline our children in a way that would injure them, neither are we to do it in anger.

parentingThis passage is talking about “loving” physical discipline used when appropriate. Discipline that hurts enough to make an impression, but not so much as to do bodily harm. It should be done in love, with the best interest of the child in mind, and should include loving instruction in helping the child come to genuine repentance.

The “rod” might be a wooden spoon for a younger child or a small flat paddle for one a little older. Again, something that will sting and bring tears, but not anything that would do real harm.

I’ve heard many of the arguments against spanking. Number one among them is that they will just learn to hit, too. But when discipline is administered lovingly on the backside with a “honey-I-love-you-too-much-to-let-you-go-your-own-way” attitude, even a young child knows the difference between a spanking and hitting in anger.

There are a number of good books on the subject of child discipline from a biblical perspective. I’ll include some links at the bottom.  Continue reading