“Could You Be a Contentious Woman?” July 17


Could You Be a Contentious Woman?


Could you be a contentious woman? Do you ever find yourself arguing for argument’s sake? Do you feel like it’s your job to point out the other side of the issue? Do you enjoy a good debate? Do you have to have the last word?


Today’s Readings:
2 Chronicles 30 & 31
Psalm 85.1-7
Proverbs 21.9-11
Acts 20.1-16


Could You Be a Contentious Woman?


Proverbs 21.9-11:

If the Shoe Fits?


Verse 9, “Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.”

My thesaurus uses some of the following synonyms: controversial, debatable, arguable, touchy. The Encarta Dictionary defines her as, “frequently engaging in and seeming to enjoy arguments and disputes.”

Do you ever find yourself arguing for arguments sake? Do you feel like it’s your job to point out the other side of the issue? Do you enjoy a good debate? Do you have to have the last word?

Ladies, we need to ask ourselves those questions without trying to justify or minimize our actions. If we can answer “yes” to any of them, let’s ask God to help us search our hearts (Ps. 139.23-24) and help us grow and change.


Today’s Other Readings:


2 Chronicles 30 & 31:

What happens when God’s people come together?


Here in these two chapters Hezekiah calls the people to repentance and worship. He sends runners throughout the land even to the Northern Kingdom to extend the invitation. Although most of the people in the Northern Kingdom “laughed at them and mocked them,” the people of Judah came together with “singleness of heart.” What followed was a great revival with the people giving in abundance to support the priests and Levites and the operation of the temple. And when they did, God blessed them abundantly.


Psalm 85.1-7:

Forgiving Like God Forgives


Verses 2-3, “You have forgiven the iniquity of Your people; You have covered all their sin. Selah. You have taken away all Your wrath. You have turned from the fierceness of Your anger.”

When God forgives and covers sin, He ceases to be angry about it. We are told in Ephesians 4.32 to “forgive just as God in Christ also has forgiven us.” If we truly forgive we choose to cease being angry, too. It may take time for our feelings to completely come into line, but we can choose to treat that person with God’s love if we will rely on His grace. 


Acts 20.1-16:

How about a 12-hour Sunday service?


Verse 7, “Now on the first day of the week, when the disciples came together to break bread, Paul, ready to depart the next day, spoke to them and continued his message until midnight.”

Can you imagine being in church until midnight? Some of us are looking at our watches when the service goes over an hour! And some of us don’t even get there until after the praise and worship. (We’re missing a great opportunity to minister back to the Lord, by the way!)

Maybe we need to ask God to give us more of a hunger for His Word and a greater desire to hear it preached.


Questions to Ponder or Journal:

Are you willing to examine your life, especially your speech, in light of Proverbs 21.9? Do you need to ask your husband how you’re doing in this area? (This may call for a extra measure of courage!)

Is there anyone you need to forgive as God forgives?

Self-examination is an important part of the Christian life. Someone once said that many Christians fail to lead fruitful Christian lives because they fail to lead examined lives. And Dwight L. Moody said:

“The Scriptures were not given to increase our knowledge, but to change our lives.”

The Holy Spirit is the agent of change, but our responsibility is to apply what we learn.

Are you examining your life daily in light of Scripture? Are you applying what your learn and allowing the Word and the Holy Spirit to change you from the inside out?

Few of us would be willing to do the level of self-examination that Jonathan Edwards did, but his resolutions are worth reading.

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4 thoughts on ““Could You Be a Contentious Woman?” July 17

  1. I had head the proverb about a contentious woman, but I didn’t know exactly what one was. Thanks for the definition. Arguing for the sake of arguing. That kind of attitude is not pleasant for anyone. Even the arguer.

    • You’re so right, yet it can become a habit that takes God’s grace to break. The good news is, He is well able to help us do it! So glad you were here today!

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