“How ‘Blame-Shifting’ Hurts You” March 21


Why You Shouldn't Be a Blame-Shifter - Are you a blame shifter? If so, how will it hurt you in the long run?Are you a blame-shifter? If so, how will it hurt you in the long run?


Today’s Readings:
Deuteronomy 3 & 4
Psalm 36.7-12
Proverbs 12.7
Luke 1.1-20


How ‘Blame-Shifting’ Hurts You


Deuteronomy 3 & 4:

Finger Pointing


One thing we talk a lot about in counseling is Matthew 7.3-5 and how we need to remove the logs from our own eyes before we point the finger at anyone else.

Ezekiel 18.20 says, “The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself.”

Yet, none of us is free from the tendency to want to blame someone else for our sins. Look at Moses statement in chapter 4:

“Furthermore the LORD was angry with me for your sakes, and swore that I would not cross over the Jordan, and that I would not enter the good land which the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance” (4.21).


Where It Started


All this blaming-shifting actually started in the garden. When God asked Adam if he had eaten the forbidden fruit, he said, “The woman you gave me, she made me sin.” In other words, “It’s her fault and Yours, after all, You gave her to me!”

And what did we say, ladies? “It was the devil. He made me do it!” And it’s been going on ever since!

But sadly, we only hurt ourselves when we do. 

Proverbs 28.13 says, “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”

As long as we have unconfessed and unforsaken sin in our lives it hurts our relationship with God (Matt. 6.14-15), hurts our relationships with others (no one wants to hang around someone who never takes responsibility for her own actions), and keeps us from growing and changing (Jas. 1.22-25, Matt. 7.3-5).

Yet when we do confess and forsake our sins, God gives us His mercy.




Psalm 36.7-12:

Where do you put your trust?


Verse 7, “How precious is Your lovingkindness, O God! Therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of Your wings.”

If we truly understand the love and goodness of God, we will find it easy to put our trust in Him. But, in reality, we often put our trust in others things.


Proverbs 12.7:

The House of the Righteous


“The wicked are overthrown and are no more, but the house of the righteous will stand.”

Jesus told us in Matthew 6 to store up treasure in heaven rather than earthly treasure which will rust and come to nothing. Heavenly treasure is the only kind that will ultimately stand the test of eternity.

But God does watch over and protect His people here on earth, as well. While He doesn’t protect us from every hurt, disappointment or loss, nothing can happen to us that isn’t first filtered through His loving hands.


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Luke 1.1-20:

Faith & Certainty


I’m excited to get into this third gospel account, written by Luke the Physician. Luke wrote both this gospel and the book of Acts. He was the only Gentile to write any of the books of the Bible. Luke starts his account earlier than the other gospel writers—even before the conception of Jesus’ cousin, John the Baptist.

Expect to learn exciting things as we begin this third account of the life of our Lord while He was here on earth!

Luke lays out his reason for writing in verses 3-4:

3 it seemed good to me also, having had perfect understanding of all things from the very first, to write to you an orderly account, most excellent Theophilus, 4 that you may know the certainty of those things in which you were instructed.

God doesn’t want us wondering about His truths. He wants us to “know with certainly.” And Paul said, “faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Rom. 10.17). So the more we read, study, and seek to understand His Word, the more our faith and certainty will grow.



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4 thoughts on ““How ‘Blame-Shifting’ Hurts You” March 21

  1. Connecting via Faith ‘n Friends Linkup. I am always blessed by your posts, short or long. This blame shifting thing you address here creates bad blood in relationships. Shared on my Fb page, Aunty Edith. Keep teaching and building the saints to the glory of God in Jesus’ name.

  2. You’re right, Donna! Blame -shifting started in the Garden and continues today. Blame someone else . . . we even blame God. Thanks for this great reminder to take responsibility, repent, and celebrate the freedom we have in God’s grace and mercy. God’s blessings!

    • We have a great reason to celebrate His mercy, don’t we?! But, we miss out to a large degree when we are so busy blaming everyone else! So glad you were here, Deb!

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