Marriage: Made in Heaven? Part 9 “Decision Making & 4-Way Stops” + LINKUP


Marriage: Made in Heaven? Part 9 "Decision Making & 4-Way Stops" - What can a 4-way stop intersection teach us about submission, biblical authority, and decision making within marriage?What can a 4-way stop intersection teach us about submission, biblical authority, and decision making within marriage?

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Marriage: Made in Heaven? “Decision Making & 4-Way Stops”


In the first few weeks of this study we talked about some of the key components of marriage, then the wife’s role, and last week we looked a little deeper at submission, what it is and what it isn’t.

If you missed the last two and you’re struggling with the idea of submission or not even sure if it’s biblical or fair, I encourage you to go back and read them.

Today I want to look at a practical explanation of what submission should look like and how it ties in with the husband’s role as leader (Eph. 5.25).

My husband does a great job of explaining what I want to share, so I’m going to let him do just that. This little video is an illustration he uses in the counseling room and when he teaches on the subject.



Some of you might be thinking, I would submit if my husband preferred me like that! We need to remember that our job is to trust God and allow Him to work in our husbands.

But we also need to understand that, in the same way, that a husband’s love for his wife is purifying and causes her to want to love him back, a wife’s respect and willingness to honor him and follow his leadership, softens his heart both toward her and toward God (1 Pet. 3.1-4). 

God is trustworthy. He designed marriage for our good and His glory. Despite what the world and some in our government believe, we don’t have the right to redefine it. And when marriage is done His way, it’s a shining example that is greatly needed in our culture today. And for us, can become one of the greatest relationships this side of heaven.

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16 thoughts on “Marriage: Made in Heaven? Part 9 “Decision Making & 4-Way Stops” + LINKUP

    • Mike says if most women understood submission this way and men followed it, women wouldn’t have so much trouble with the idea. I agree!

  1. I love Mike’s illustration about someone giving “right-of-way” to the other driver at an intersection. That makes so much more sense than many illustrations I’ve heard before. We avoid a marriage collision when we operate in these God-ordained ways! Great thoughts and I look forward to hearing and reading more, Donna. I also need to go back to last week’s. I was so busy last week that I missed getting to read it. Thanks for the linkup, my friend!

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