Marriage Made in Heaven? Part 5 “Weaving” + LINKUP



Marriage Made in Heaven? Part 5 "Cleaving" - Previously, we've looked at an overview of marriage and have been discussing the three components of marriage God laid out in Genesis 2.24 and other places in Scripture: leaving, cleaving, and what we're calling "weaving," growing in a one-flesh relationship. Today we'll focus on "weaving."Previously, we’ve looked at an overview of marriage and have been discussing the three components of marriage God laid out in Genesis 2.24 and other places in Scripture: leaving, cleaving, and what we’re calling “weaving,” growing in a one-flesh relationship. Today we’ll focus on “weaving.”

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The term “a marriage made in heaven,” may bring to mind different images, feelings, and expectations, but wherever you are, I believe this series has something for you.


Marriage: Made in Heaven? “Weaving”


Let’s look at our foundational Scripture once again:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Gen. 2.24).

The three key components mentioned here are all critical to a God-honoring marriage.

Two weeks ago I focused on leaving. Briefly, it means we no longer depend on our parents emotionally, financially, or relationally. It means what they want or expect does not take priority over our spouse’s wishes and it means not running to them with every problem.

Last week, we talked about cleaving, including what it means when we say that marriage is a covenant relationship. God designed marriage to be a permanent relationship between one man and one woman for life.

Today we’ll talk about weaving, two becoming one.

This one-flesh relationship includes the sexual aspect of marriage, but it is much more. Wayne Mack in his book Strengthening Your Marriage says, “Marriage is a total commitment and a total sharing of the total person with another person until death.”

The marriage act should be a symbol of a more complete oneness. Weaving our lives together means becoming one-flesh relationally, socially, and financially, as well as, physically.

Couples should share everything, including: thoughts, ideas, dreams, abilities, problems, fears, concerns, successes, and failures. Ecclesiastes 4 says:

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. 10 For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.11 Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? 12 And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

That’s not to say a person isn’t complete unless they’re married. If God has called you to singleness or a season of singleness, you are complete in Him. But when God said it was not good that man should be alone (Gen. 2.18), it referred to this idea of making up for what is lacking in each other.

Weaving our lives together is a picture of unity and deep intimacy, but it doesn’t mean we’re the same.

I’m always amazed at how God often brings together two people who are opposites in many ways. One will be a morning person and the other a night owl. One will be frugal and the other more spontaneous about spending. One may be outgoing and the other more of an introvert.

This can cause sparks as we’re learning to weave our lives together, but instead of expecting our spouses to be just like us, we should learn to appreciate each other’s differences. We should learn from and strengthen one another.


What Hinders Unity?


Genesis 2.25 says, “And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” But as soon as they sinned, they “realized they were naked” and they tried to hide themselves (Gen. 3.7). This was more than just physical nakedness. It was vulnerability. They saw themselves in their fallen state. As soon as they sinned they wanted to cover up from God and, ultimately, from each other.

Sin still keeps us from the transparency and intimacy God designed for marriage. In our sin nature, we are self-protective and prideful, rather than open and honest. But the walls we build to protect ourselves keeps us from the intimacy we desire. We end up cheating ourselves.

Other sins like bitterness and unforgiveness, harshness, selfishness, stubbornness, anger, impatience, and unwholesome speech prevent us from unity and intimacy, too. 


The Answer


The answer is the gospel. We need the gospel before we can be in right relationship with God and, also, so we can have a right relationship with others, including in marriage.

Only Christ can take two sinful, selfish individuals and enable them to leave their father and mother, cleave to one another, and become one-flesh. 2 Corinthians 5:

15 and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again.

17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

He alone enables us to change and produce the fruit of the Spirit:

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires (Gal. 5).

Next week, we’ll dig deeper into what it means on a practical level to weave our lives together. I hope you’ll come back.




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6 thoughts on “Marriage Made in Heaven? Part 5 “Weaving” + LINKUP

  1. This really speaks to me, Donna!! I will have to agree with everything you’ve said here. Part of that is because my husband and I are good at this weaving, and I think that’s one of the reasons we get along so well!
    Of course, it’s easier to weave like this when you know your husband is on the same side and wanting to be part of your life!!

  2. I love your conclusion — that the gospel is our only hope for unity and true union in marriage. So important for us to remember this truth for all areas of life. The Gospel is our only hope.

  3. This is such an interesting series, Donna. And I love the way you’ve added in a look at the way sex in marriage weaves our hearts and lives together. I don’t really think about that when I think of “leaving and cleaving” but it’s really very much a part of the oneness God wants us to experience. Very thought-provoking and well-written, my friend! So glad to be a part of the linkup!

    • Thanks so much, Beth! Your new series looks like it will be great. I enjoyed reading your testimony this morning. Thanks you for linking up!

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