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A few weeks ago my husband hit me. The first time he told me it would never happen again, but last week it did. We have only been married 2 years and we have a new baby. My parents don’t live here, but I did talk to his mother. She seems to be concerned, but she doesn’t want me to tell anyone. I love my husband, but every time something goes wrong, I start to get afraid. I hope you can tell me what to do?
Dear J., that is a very difficult situation and I’m so glad you’re looking for answers. It’s not the kind of thing that you can just keep silent about. That would be dangerous for you and, ultimately, not the loving thing to do for your husband.
You and your husband both need to seek counseling. You need to be wise about when you ask him to go. Choose a time when there is no strife and things aren’t already heated. If you have any concern about how he will respond, you need to bring it up in a safe environment (a public place or with other family members).
If he is not willing to seek counseling, you need to go on your own. You can go to the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors website, put in your zip code, and find a biblical counselor near you.
I understand that his mother has a desire to protect her son and she wants to believe the best of him, but it is not wisdom in this case, to keep silent.
If there is any further violence, you need to call 911, immediately. Romans 13.1-5 says that the civil authorities are ministers of God’s righteousness. They are there for our protection. It would not be loving, even to your husband, to allow him to hurt you and have to face worse consequences. You need to do what is right and necessary to protect yourself and your baby.
If you and your husband attend church, you can also go to your pastor and ask him to help your husband. If this problem continues, he should be made aware of the issues as he has spiritual oversight of his church members (Heb. 13.17).
Finally, I want to reiterate the importance of getting help on this right away before something more serious happens. This is not a problem that will just go away if you do nothing. In fact, the likelihood is that it will continue escalate. You are not alone. There is help available, but you must make those calls.
If you don’t know who to call, contact me again and I’ll give you some more direction. I’ll be praying for you.
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