“Wives, are you rotten?” March 20


Wives, are you rotten?


Rotten: It means something that is decaying or infected.

Ladies, our Proverbs passage tells us we can be like rotten fruit to our husbands! But we have a choice. We can, also, choose to be like crowns bringing them honor through our lives. Which one are you?


Today’s Readings:
Deuteronomy 1 & 2
Psalm 36.1-6
Proverbs 12.4-6
Mark 16.1-20


Wives, are you rotten?


Proverbs 12.4-6:

Excellent or Rotten?


Verse 4 says, “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.”

Wives, do you do things which cause your husband shame? The way you talk? The way you dress? The way you criticize him in front of others? Does he consider you a “crown” to him or more like rotten fruit?

Are you an excellent wife? Proverbs 31 talks a lot about what it means to be an excellent wife. Among other things, she is trustworthy in all her behavior. She’s industrious, not lazy. She’s generous. She seeks to be organized and prepares for the future. She cares about her appearance, but she understand that inner beauty is the most important part of becoming the woman God wants her to be.

She’s faithful with her responsibilities and that frees her husband to be who God wants him to be. She is faithful to grow in her understanding of God’s Word and it’s reflected in her speech and character. She values her testimony. She wants others to see the light of Christ in her life.

Now a question for you husbands. Do you value what God values in a wife? What are you doing to help her become that “excellent wife”? Continue reading

The Excellent Wife + LINKUP


Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is one that has helped many women get a more biblically balanced view of our role, our responsibilities, and our blessings.


The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace.


The Excellent WifeThere are many books available today on marriage and on how to be the husband or wife that God has called you to be. I’ve read a number of them and, perhaps, so have you.

But Martha’s book is different from many of them. First of all, it’s not new. In fact, in my opinion, it’s a classic when it comes to biblical books on the wife’s role in marriage. It was first published in 1995. Martha wrote it because, as a biblical counselor seeking to help other women, she needed solid material to use in her counseling and, at that time, there was little available.

In the years since, it has been used by countless women and countless counselors, including myself. I have read and re-read it. I’ve taught it in the classroom and I’ve used it over and over in my counseling ministry. I’ve shared it with young women and with seasoned veterans to marriage. I’ve found it to be the most comprehensive, biblical book there is. My copy is highlighted, dog-eared, and full of notes on every blank space.

Just Another Book about Submission?


Someone out there is thinking … “Oh no, another book about submission!”

Submission is in there, because it’s part of how God has called us to live, but so is how to make a biblical appeal and how to lovingly confront your husband when he’s sinning, along with when to go to your church, and when to call the authorities because of abuse.

But the bulk of the book is about how to live out biblical womanhood on a practical, day by day basis, bringing glory to God in the process.

In the first section, Martha covers God’s protective authority, His provision for wives, His pattern for relationships, His purpose for marriage, and the wife’s role.

In the second section, she covers the heart and how it can be focused on false gods instead of Christ, also, the home, the God-kind of love, respect, intimacy and submission.

In the third section, she explains how submission is the basis for God’s protection and lists His resources for a woman’s protection. She, also, talks about the key to our motivation, the control of the tongue, and the importance of a quiet and gentle spirit.

And in the last section, Martha talks about some of our struggles: impatience, anxiety, and a lack of oneness. Continue reading