“Parenting: Why Consequences Are Important” June 3


Parenting & Consequences - Why They're Valuable -


Nothing breaks a parent’s heart more than to see our children make foolish choices which can result in consequences for years to come. But there are some things we can do early on so God doesn’t have to allow more serious consequences later.


Today’s Readings:
1 Kings 15 & 16
Psalm 69.22-28
Proverbs 17.25-26
John 13.1-20


Parenting & Consequences – Why They’re Valuable


Proverbs 17.25-26:

When to Help & When to Get Out of the Way


Verse 25, “A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her who bore him.”

Nothing breaks a parent’s heart more than to see our children make foolish choices which can result in consequences for years to come. Nothing we do can guarantee that our children will not make those choices, but our responsibility is to faithfully teach them while they are young. At times, that includes allowing them to suffer the consequences of their actions instead of constantly intervening.

  • The child who repeatedly forgets her lunch, may need to miss lunch a few times.
  • The child who gets in trouble with a teacher needs to know that Mom and Dad will not run to his rescue.
  • The teen who gets caught drinking and driving may need to spend a night in jail, instead of being immediately bailed out.
  • The son or daughter who brings drugs into the house needs to know that his or her parents will call the police and have them arrested!


Parenting & Consequences - Why They're Valuable


By allowing those less serious consequences, we may save our children from progressively more serious ones. But as they get older, if God needs to allow more serious ones, we need to be careful not to get in God’s way. The Prodigal Son’s father, a type of our Heavenly Father, did not run after his son, he didn’t bail him out of the mess he was in or try to find him a job. He patiently waited. It was in the pig sty that his son, finally, came to his senses (Lk. 15.11-32).

God loves our children more than we do. He knows what each of them (and each of us) needs to come to the end of ourselves. He knows our hearts and He disciplines us when it’s appropriate and for our good (Heb. 12.5-11).

In the course of counseling, I’ve seen too many instances where parents had protected their children over and over from the natural results of their sin and rebellion, only to have God take matters out of their hands, by allowing something that the parents could not fix.  Continue reading