“21 Premarital Red Flags” August 30

 

21 Premarital Red Flags - God's wisdom can help us avoid numerous problems, but ignoring it can lead to all kinds of trouble and heartache in every area of life. And when it comes to the decision of whether or not to marry, God's Word provides an abundance of wisdom and cautions that can save you from years of heartache. Ignore it at your own peril. God’s wisdom can help us avoid many problems, but ignoring it can lead to all kinds of trouble and heartache in every area of life. And when it comes to the decision of whether or not to marry someone, God’s Word provides an abundance of wisdom and cautions that can save you from years of heartache. Ignore it at your own peril.

Also read about one secret to contentment, the danger of delayed justice, and some important questions to consider before exercising our “freedoms” in Christ.

 

Today’s Readings:
Ecclesiastes 8-10
Psalm 103.6-14
Proverbs 24.10-12
1 Corinthians 10.19-33

 

Premarital Red Flags

 

Ecclesiastes 8-10:

Delayed Justice

 

“Because the sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil” (8.11).

And we wonder why our criminal justice system doesn’t work?

It’s not that we shouldn’t take the time to allow for a thorough investigation and give an accused person a chance to defend him or herself, but when cases drag on for years and sentences are not carried out in a reasonable amount of time, punishment is much less of a deterrent.

 

Eat, Drink & Be Merry

 

“So I commended enjoyment, because a man has nothing better under the sun than to eat, drink, and be merry; for this will remain with him in his labor all the days of his life which God gives him under the sun” (8.15).

couple eating pizza joy contentmentThis is not about living a party lifestyle, doing whatever we please, but about enjoying life’s simple pleasures within the framework of God’s will. The sad fact is that just like Adam and Eve, we constantly feel we must go outside the guidelines God has given to find the pleasure we think we “deserve.” God gave them the whole garden to enjoy and they settled for a lousy tree!

“Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun” (9.9).

God gives us all the benefits of marriage to enjoy and we will settle for some other guy or some other woman who we think “understands us” or builds up our ego—forgetting the spouses they are willing to neglect while they commit adultery with us! We will destroy two families, our testimony, and our relationship with God to have what we think we want, and realize too late it doesn’t deliver.

 

Premarital Red Flags that Can Keep You from Years of Heartache

 

13 This wisdom I have also seen under the sun, and it seemed great to me: 14 There was a little city with few men in it; and a great king came against it, besieged it, and built great snares around it. 15 Now there was found in it a poor wise man, and he by his wisdom delivered the city. Yet no one remembered that same poor man.

16 Then I said:

“Wisdom is better than strength.
Nevertheless the poor man’s wisdom is despised,
And his words are not heard (9.13-16).

Solomon reminds us that “Wisdom is better than strength,” though he admits it may not always be appreciated in this life.

Even God’s principles, the greatest wisdom, are often rejected as too hard, too inconvenient or too restrictive. But when the consequences of living life their own way sets in, people come looking for help just as the men of this small city came looking for this wise man.

One area where I see this played out is with premarital couples. At our church we require couples to take a “Preparing for Marriage” class before they can be married by one of our pastors. It is followed by an interview with the couple leading the class. When there are red flags concerning marriage, they may counsel them personally or refer one or both of them to one of our other counselors.  Continue reading

7 Red Flags You’re Drifting in Your Relationship with Christ + LINKUP

 

7 Red Flags You're Drifting in Your Relationship with Christ - Most of us have, at times, drifted in our relationship with Christ. Maybe you're caught in that current right now. How can we know we're drifting before we go too far and suffer the consequences?Red flags in our Christian walk: Most of us have, at times, drifted in our relationship with Christ. Maybe you’re caught in that current right now. How can we know we’re drifting before we go too far and suffer the consequences?

 

Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival.

 

7 Red Flags You’re Drifting in Your Relationship with Christ

 

We’ve all experienced it. Drifting. Drifting away in your relationship with God.

At times, it feels good.

I don’t know about you, but I get tired. Tired of being the one perceived to be against everything. Feminism. Abortion. Living together. Tolerance.

Even though I know Galatians says, we’re not to get weary in doing good (Gal. 6.9), I get tired of feeling like I’m held to a higher standard. Other Christians get away with (fill in the blank). I suspect I’m not the only one who feels that way at times.

 

Sometimes we’re busy. I mean BUSY. There’s marriage, kids, ministry … laundry.

We don’t mean to drift away. We’ll get to it tomorrow, our relationship with God that is. Because, right now, there are so many other things.

We’re Martha’s instead of Mary’s (Lk. 10.38-42).

 

Sometimes we’re disappointed. We prayed and prayed, but nothing happened. We thought life would straighten out because we accepted the Lord, started going to church, got more involved …

Even though Jesus warned us life wouldn’t always be easy (Jn. 16.33), life has been hard and it seems there’s no end in sight. It’s easy to forget he also told us He’d give us rest and cause our burdens to be light (Matt. 11.28-30).

 

Sometimes drifting kind of sneaks up on us. It’s OK to miss church just this once. I’ll read my Bible tomorrow. My co-workers will think I’m too religious if I pray over my lunch. It’s just one improper movie, night out with the girls, or racy novel.

 

So, how can we know our relationship with God isn’t what it should be?

 

7 Red Flags You’re Drifting

 

1. You no longer read your Bible regularly.

You no longer have a hunger for God’s Word. If you do read your Bible, it’s just one more thing on your to-do list. It’s not about spending time in His presence.

Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man who trusts in Him! (Ps. 34.8).

Oh, how I love Your law!
It is my meditation all the day (Ps. 119.97).

 

2. You’re not praying.

I’ll pray tomorrow, in the car, or when I get a chance. But it doesn’t happen.

One day Jesus told his disciples a story to show that they should always pray and never give up (Lk. 18.1 NLT).

Pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thess. 5.17-18).

 

3. You’re missing church. 

You look for any excuse. Or you go because it’s expected, but your heart’s not in it.

24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, 25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching (Heb. 10.24-25).

 

4. You don’t miss His people.

You’ve had it with other Christians. They’re all hypocrites and you’d rather be around unbelievers.

34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (Jn. 13.34-35).

 

5. You’re doing things you once thought you were done with.

Unwholesome words are slipping in. You go places you shouldn’t. You justify things God told you to leave alone.

22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness (Eph. 4.22-24).

 

6. The fruit of the Spirit is sadly lacking.

You lose your temper with the kids. You’re impatient with your husband. You’re unkind to those you consider inept or who mess up your plans. Self-control is out the window.

Consequently, you have no peace or joy. Frustration, anger and bitterness have replaced them.

 

7. You’re all about your rights.

You’re sick of being a doormat. You’re tired of putting what everyone else wants ahead of what you want.

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others (Phil. 2.3-4).

 

I’ve found myself here a time or two or three …

What should we do if we’ve drifted from God?   Continue reading