“When to Help and When to Get Out of the Way” March 27

 

When to Help & When to Get Out of the Way - It happens to us all. Maybe he's standing on the street corner with a cardboard sign. Maybe it's a friend or a co-worker. Maybe it's a grown son or daughter. They need a loan. Or another loan. Or just a little help. Maybe it doesn't seem right, but there's the guilt. You wonder ... what is the right thing to do?It happens to us all. Maybe he’s standing on the street corner with a cardboard sign. Maybe it’s a friend or a co-worker. Maybe it’s a grown son or daughter. They need a loan. Or another loan. Or just a little help. Maybe it doesn’t seem right, but there’s the guilt. You wonder … what is the right thing to do?

 

Today’s Readings:
Deuteronomy 15 & Deuteronomy 16
Psalm 37.30-36
Proverbs 12.17-19
Luke 3.1-38

 

When to Help and When to Get Out of the Way

 

Deuteronomy 15 & Deuteronomy 16:

Giving, Lending, Welfare & the Church

 

In today’s reading we see a great picture of God’s attitude toward giving and caring for one another. God commanded the nation of Israel “open your hand wide to him and willingly lend him sufficient for his need (v. 15.8). Then every seven years there was to be a release of debts and a release of servants from their bondage.

One definition of biblical love is “a sacrificial action for the benefit of another and the glory of God without expecting anything in return.” That’s the kind of love we’re to have for one another—not a love based on feelings, but a love that is active and rooted in our love for God.

 

Does that Mean Believers Should Always Lend or Give to Anyone Who Asks?

 

I believe one of the greatest tragedies of our nation’s system of welfare and all the other programs we offer is that these things are not in the hands of the church. That’s partly because the church has not done what she should have. By the church, I mean us—you and me. Imagine what churches could do if everyone tithed and gave to the work of God! Instead, only a fraction of God’s people give faithfully.

God intended for us to care for one another in the context of the church family. That requires knowing one another, knowing the issues, knowing the struggles, knowing the circumstances, knowing what is really needed, knowing when to help and when NOT to help.

Because programs are not administered by people who know the one seeking help, our system has left room for fraud and abuse and often does more harm than good.

 

When to Help and When to Get Out of the Way

 

There are times when we can get in the way of what God is doing by constantly bailing others out of their difficulties. This is especially true with our own children! 

We have all seen adult children who repeatedly make unwise decisions, squander their own and, sometimes, their parents resources, and make excuses for why they can’t work steadily. Their heart-broken and confused parents help them over and over much to the dismay of other family members and the detriment of the one being helped.

The same Bible that teaches we should give generously says, “… Those unwilling to work will not get to eat” (2 Thess. 3.10 NLT). We need to be discerning when others come to us for help. We should pray and seek God’s wisdom.

Has this person worked hard to solve the issue at hand? Has he or she shown responsibility in the past, but is faced with an unforeseen difficulty? Or has he or she shown a pattern of poor decisions and irresponsible behavior? Are we getting in the way of God’s consequences?

A whip for the horse,
A bridle for the donkey,
And a rod for the fool’s back (Prov. 26.3).

There is desirable treasure,
And oil in the dwelling of the wise,
But a foolish man squanders it (Prov. 21.20).

But notice that passage said those who are unwilling to work wouldn’t get to eat. It didn’t say unable. We should help those who are truly unable to work and we should do what we can to support widows, orphans, and the elderly when they don’t have family to care for them.

In Biblical times, farmers were to leave a remnant of their crop for the poor to gather freely and God has special care and concern for widows and orphans.

The bottom line is Scripture must be studied and understood in light of other Scripture. There is a time to extend mercy and a time to gently rebuke and counsel (Gal. 6.1-2). There is a time to help and a time to get out of the way.

 

TODAY’S OTHER READINGS:

 

Psalm 37.30-36:

Righteous Speech

 

Verses 30-31, “The mouth of the righteous speaks wisdom, and his tongue talks of justice. The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.”

If we want our words to be filled with wisdom, we must continually hide His Word in our hearts. That means we need to read it, study it, meditate on it, and memorize it!


Proverbs 12.17-19:

Exposing Lies

 

Verse 19, “The truthful lip shall be established forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.”

God will expose a lying tongue. Someone said, “What we cover, God uncovers, but what we confess, God covers.”

 

Luke 3.1-38:

John the Faithful Messenger

 

Here we see John the Baptist preaching, calling the people to repentance and baptizing them. John’s ministry was to help prepare the hearts of the people for the message of salvation and for their Messiah.

 

Changed Hearts Equal Changed Lives

 

The repentance to which John called the people was more than just sorrow over their sins but to a changed life. He told the people to be generous. He told the tax collectors to stop overcharging for their own gain and soldiers to do their jobs without taking advantage of their power (vv. 3.10-14).

Likewise, when we come to faith in Christ, there must be repentance (Lk. 5.32). Repentance involves recognition of the fact that we are sinners in need of a Savior and that we can never be good enough to save ourselves. But it also involves a change of mind leading to a change of behavior. John said, “bear fruits worthy of repentance” (v. 8) and Jesus said, “every tree is known by its own fruit” (Lk. 6.44).

A genuine salvation experience will lead to a change in thinking and behavior. We will still feel the pull of sin, but the Holy Spirit who comes to live in us (1 Cor. 6.19) enables us to choose to do what is pleasing to God. The pull is still there, but it no longer has power over us.

That’s good news and bad. It means by relying on God and His strength we can change and grow and choose righteous living. It also means if we do sin, we are choosing to do so (1 Cor. 10.13).

As believers we will sin. But 1 John 1.7-9 reminds us …

7 … if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.

8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Blessings,
Donna


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10 thoughts on ““When to Help and When to Get Out of the Way” March 27

  1. Thanks for sharing this insight, Donna. This is something I’m ever in prayer about, because my compassion gets the best of me, sometimes. I want to make wise choices and not get in the way of the lessons God has for others, so I try to maintain prayerful balance. Thanks for sharing today. ((hug))

    • It is definitely a prayerful balance! I think most of us struggle with the same thoughts when we’re faced with a decision to help or not. Thanks for hosting!

  2. Donna – this is a good question and a great discussion to have – my husband and I read a book called Toxic Jesus – when helping hurts – it was rather eye opening and had some things I had not thought about before. Thanks for sharing at #TuneInThursday this week

  3. Good stuff! We were just talking about this (praying too) Donna because some people always stand nearby with signs but have a vehicle parked close to them. We want to give always, feel guilt when we don’t but don’t want to be unwise either…it is hard for me to drive by people and look them in the eye if I pretend I have nothing to offer. Maybe I should sing that song that the disciples sang to the man who couldn’t walk? 🙂

    • It’s a good thing that our hearts are soft and we struggle with these situations. The opposite would be to just harder our hearts and not be open to give when God prompts us. So glad you were here today, Meghan!

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