“How Would Others Describe Your Words?” November 22

 

How would others describe your words? Are the things you say blessing or cursing others? Are your words wholesome and edifying or critical and destructive? Are they full of God's grace and intended to help the hearer understand your care for them or merely spewing bitterness? If someone had to describe what comes out of your mouth in one word, would your words be described as blessing or cursing? How would others describe your words? Are the things you say blessing or cursing others? Are your words wholesome and edifying or critical and destructive? Are they full of God’s grace and intended to help the hearer understand your care for them or merely spewing bitterness? If someone had to describe what comes out of your mouth in one word, would your words be described as blessing or cursing? 

 

Today’s Readings:
Ezekiel 35 & 36
Psalm 131.1-3
Proverbs 29.2-3
James 3.1-18

 

How Would Others Describe Your Words?

 

James 3.1-18:

The Tongue

 

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Oh, the tongue … how much damage we can do with that little member! Especially damaging is someone who claims to be a believer, and yet makes no effort to control his or her tongue.

“Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh” (vv. 10-13).

If someone had to describe what comes out of your mouth in one word, would it be blessing or cursing? Bitter or fresh?

Ephesians 4.29 says:

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from our mouths, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” (NASB)

Unwholesome words are more than just vulgarity or using the Lord’s name in vain. According to Strong’s Concordance, the Greek word means “rotten, useless, corrupt or depraved.”

textingMerriam-Webster defines rotten as “decayed, bad, unpleasant or unhealthy.” Useless as “ineffectual or inept.” Unpleasant means “displeasing.” Corrupt means “tainted or morally impure” and depraved means “perverted.”

So, certainly, we need to put off any kind of speech that could be described by any of those adjectives, but it’s not enough to just quit saying things that fit those descriptions. We also need to put on speech that is, as Paul said in Ephesians 4.29, edifying and grace giving.

According to Strong’s again, edifying speech is “constructive criticism and instruction that builds a person up to be the suitable dwelling place of God.” And grace refers to the example of the Lord’s attitude toward us. It goes on to explain that “it is preeminently used of the Lord’s favor freely extended to give Himself away to people because He is always leaning toward them.”

Think about those two definitions for a minute. How does the way you talk to others (your spouse, your children, even strangers) fit those descriptions? Does everything you say demonstrate a desire to see the recipient be a more suitable dwelling place of God? Is it constructive and instructive or is it critical and destructive?

Is what you say intended to help the hearer understand your care for them? Are your words full of God’s grace?

If we are to grow and become more like Christ, if we are to reflect His light to a lost and dying world, if we are to demonstrate the superiority of a life lived in Christ to our children and others, we must do a better job of using our tongue in ways that are glorifying to God.

 

How would others describe your words? Are the things you say blessing or cursing others? Are your words wholesome and edifying or critical and destructive? Are they full of God's grace and intended to help the hearer understand your care for them or merely spewing bitterness? If someone had to describe what comes out of your mouth in one word, would your words be described as blessing or cursing? 

 

Today’s Other Readings:

 

Ezekiel 35 & 36:

A Picture of the New Covenant

 

Chapter 36.24-27 is a beautiful picture of the new covenant:

24 For I will take you from among the nations, gather you out of all countries, and bring you into your own land. 25 Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you shall be clean; I will cleanse you from all your filthiness and from all your idols. 26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. 27 I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will keep My judgments and do them.

This will be fulfilled for the Nation of Israel in the Millennial Kingdom, but we already enjoy many of these same blessings with the new birth and its new covenant.

 

Psalm 131.1-3:

Grace for the Humble

 

Verse 1, “LORD, my heart is not haughty, nor my eyes lofty. Neither do I concern myself with great matters, nor with things too profound for me.”

Humility is one of the characteristics that should characterize a believer. God says He resists the proud (Jas. 4.6) and that a proud look is one of the things He hates (Prov. 6.16-17), but He gives grace to the humble (Jas. 4.6).

Let’s pray that we would recognize pride in our lives and learn to humble ourselves under His mighty hand.

 

Proverbs 29.2-3:

Loving Wisdom

 

Verse 3, “Whoever loves wisdom makes his father rejoice, but a companion of harlots wastes his wealth.”

What a joy it is to see your children grow up and live lives filled with God’s wisdom and grace! And what a grief it is to see them waste their lives, talents, and resources, and especially, to see them ignore the truths of God which they have been taught.

 

Your Thoughts:

How has God spoken to you today? Did you see a passage in a new light? Did you see an area where you need to grow and change? Did you find a promise to hold on to? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

 

Coming Up:

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Getting ready for 2018

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4 thoughts on ““How Would Others Describe Your Words?” November 22

  1. I’ve often wondered this about myself. I am a homeschooling, stay at home mom so my kids are the ones who hear my words most often. I think my son has seen more sides of me than any other person and unfortunately that includes the negative sides, too. I think the family can be the hardest to use edifying words with sometimes. Thanks for this reminder this morning. I know what verses the kids and I will be working on memorizing for the next few weeks 🙂

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