“To Spank or Not to Spank” August 18

 

To Spank or Not to Spank? - To spank or not to spank? Should physical discipline be a part of today's parenting? What is your source of truth on the subject? If you spank, what should be your attitude when doing so?To spank or not to spank? Should physical discipline be a part of today’s parenting? What is your source of truth on the subject? If you spank, what should be your attitude when doing so?

Also read about the importance of not criticizing, complaining or being divisive withing the church body … and … when and how it’s right to disagree.

 

Today’s Readings:
Job 27 & 28
Psalm 97.1-6
Proverbs 23.13-14
Romans 16.1-27

 

To Spank or Not to Spank?

 

Proverbs 23.13-14:

What is your source of truth?

 

“Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell.”

bible reading manI know these are hard verses for some and something that flies in the face of much of the current child psychology.

As with other areas of thought, psychologists say one thing and God’s Word says another. We must each answer the question, “What is your source of truth?”

That was God’s question to Adam and Eve.

God had said, “Don’t eat the fruit for if you do you will surely die.” Then Satan came along and said, “You will not surely die, but you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

The passage goes on to say that their eyes were opened and they saw that “they were naked.” God’s question to them was, “Who told you that you were naked?” In other words, what or who is your source of truth?

Of course, we must remember that Scripture is to be interpreted in light of other Scripture. Ephesians 6.4 says, “… do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” We must have the right heart attitude when we discipline our children. God does not want us to discipline our children in a way that would injure them, neither are we to do it in anger.

parentingThis passage is talking about “loving” physical discipline used when appropriate. Discipline that hurts enough to make an impression, but not so much as to do bodily harm. It should be done in love, with the best interest of the child in mind, and should include loving instruction in helping the child come to genuine repentance.

The “rod” might be a wooden spoon for a younger child or a small flat paddle for one a little older. Again, something that will sting and bring tears, but not anything that would do real harm.

I’ve heard many of the arguments against spanking. Number one among them is that they will just learn to hit, too. But when discipline is administered lovingly on the backside with a “honey-I-love-you-too-much-to-let-you-go-your-own-way” attitude, even a young child knows the difference between a spanking and hitting in anger.

There are a number of good books on the subject of child discipline from a biblical perspective. I’ll include some links at the bottom.  Continue reading

“Running to God When We Want to Run Away” August 6

 

Running to God When We Want to Run Away - Life, including pain and heartache, happens to us all, but if we don't know the essential character of God, we will be tempted to blame Him and run away, instead of running to God when we need Him the most. Also, read about "the rod of correction" when it comes to parenting and one of the most freeing verses in the Bible.Life, including pain and heartache, happens to us all, but if we don’t know the essential character of God, we will be tempted to blame Him and run away, instead of running to God when we need Him the most.

Also, read about “the rod of correction” when it comes to parenting and one of the most freeing verses in the Bible.

 

Today’s Readings:
Job 3 & 4
Psalm 91.14-16
Proverbs 22.15
Romans 8.1-21

 

Running to God When We Want to Run Away

 

Job 3 & 4:

The Essential Character of God

 

In chapter 3 Job poured out his grief in very descriptive terms. He had just lost all 10 of his children. His grief was real and powerful. He wished he had never been born.

While today we might not tear our clothing and put dust on our heads, those who are grieving will almost always express their deep sorrow—through tears, wringing of the hands, crying out to God, etc. Strong emotions and outward manifestations of grief are not wrong, but must be kept in their proper place, amount and duration. They cannot be allowed to overtake our lives.

Remember what Job’s first response was after the initial shock and physical reaction (Job 1):

21 And he said:“Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return there. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.”22 In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.

“Blessed be the name of the Lord.”

“In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.”

Though he didn’t understand the “why,” Job knew the essential character of God. If you’re struggling to understand or accept God’s circumstances in your life, don’t run from God; run to Him. Get to know Him better. Learn about His attributes—beginning with His goodness, His mercy, and His holiness. Knowing Him will enable you to trust Him even when life doesn’t make sense.

 

Today’s Other Readings:

 

Psalm 91.14-16:

Those Who Abide Under the Shadow of the Almighty

 

Verse 14 begins with God saying, “Because he has set his love upon Me …” MacArthur defines that word love as “ ‘a deep longing’ for God or a ‘clinging’ to God.”

Is that you? Do you long for God? Do you long to know Him? Do you cling to Him in times of trouble, or doubt, or fear? God isn’t looking for strong, independent people, He’s looking for those who will be dependent upon Him—who will “abide under the shadow of the Almighty” (v. 1).  Continue reading

August 18 “To spank or not to spank”

angry childTo spank or not to spank? What is your source of truth? That’s been the question since Genesis 3. In this case, what is your source of truth concerning child discipline?

Today’s Readings:
Job 27 & 28
Psalm 97.1-6
Proverbs 23.13-14
Romans 16.1-27

 

 

 

Job 27 & 28:

The secret things belong to the LORD

In chapter 28 Job talks about the precious things in life which men will work so hard to dig out of the earth—gold, silver, precious stones. Then in verse 12 he says:

“But where can wisdom be found? And where is the place of understanding?”

The Bible teaches that the wisdom of God—that is—that measure of wisdom which He gives to men and women must be dug out, too. But there is a wisdom that remains with God.

Verse 13, “Man does not know its value, nor is it found in the land of the living.”

 

Deuteronomy 29.29 says:

“The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may do all the words of this law.”

God doesn’t always see fit to explain everything He does to us! There are things and truths and reasons which we will not know until we get to heaven, if then. But there are things that we can understand and those things are revealed to us through His Word.

Read the Bible in a YearIt’s our responsibility to read and study the Word and seek to understand. It is the Holy Spirit’s responsibility to illumine our hearts. So if you struggle to understand something pray and ask Him to open your eyes that you might see wondrous things from His law (Ps. 119.18).

But in the end, if there is something going on in your life that you fail to understand, trust Him and remember that the secret things belong to the Lord. Continue reading

April 10 “Parenting from the foot of the cross”

The Bible has so much to say about parenting, and we have many great resources today to help us understand and apply the Bible’s teachings. It’s also an area where we need to apply the gospel, both to ourselves and in the grace we give our children. (See links below.)

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Today’s Readings:
Joshua 9 & 10
Psalm 44.1-3
Proverbs 13.24-25
Luke 10.1-24

Joshua 9 & 10:

If God is for you …

What an incredible picture of what it means to have God on your side, fighting for you! He stopped the sun and moon on their behalf, used hailstones to destroy their enemies and saw that they were protected and had complete victory.

But even when God is not working in such obviously dramatic ways, He is still present and at work in the lives of all who belong to Him.

Romans 8.31b, “If God is for us, who can be against us?” And Philippians 1.6, “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.”

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