“Preparing to BE Married”+ LINKUP


Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource.

This week’s selection is Preparing for Marriage by David Boehi, Brent Nelson, Jeff Schulte & Lloyd Shadrach, published by Family Life Ministries.


Preparing for Marriage - You know how it goes. We meet. Fall in love. Get married. And live happily ever after. At least that's what we all expect. No one marries expecting to be a divorce statistic, but sadly, the rate of divorce isn't all that different among Christian couples than it is with unbelievers.You know how it goes. We meet. Fall in love. Get married. And live happily ever after.

At least that’s what we all expect. No one marries expecting to be a divorce statistic, but sadly, the rate of divorce isn’t all that different among Christian couples than it is with unbelievers.

That shouldn’t be the case and it doesn’t have to be, but it takes preparation. Preparation that is often neglected in the midst of choosing caterers and venues. Many couples spend months, even longer, preparing for a wedding and little, if any, time preparing to be married!

My husband and I taught a preparing for marriage class for a number of years. After using various materials, we found this book and the couples who currently teach the class still use it.

The book is a combination book and workbook. The best way to use it, is for each person to complete a chapter or project on their own, then to spend some time discussing it together. It can be worked through by a couple on their own or with a mentor couple. It can also be used as a small group or classroom study.

This is what Dennis Rainey has to say about Preparing for Marriage

… going through this workbook:

  • You will discover the joy of knowing your fiancé(e) and also being known by your fiancé(e) at levels you never imagined.
  • You will talk about things you never dreamed you would but always knew you should.
  • You will know, apply and experience God’s Word as it relates to engagement and marriage.
  • You will be confident, certain and secure in your decision to marry (or even not to marry).
  • You will practice and apply foundational skills you will need to build your marriage.
  • You will acquire essential communication skills.
  • You will understand the critical nature of core roles in marriage.
  • You will learn about God’s design for true sexual intimacy and “total message” communication.
  • You will, hopefully, connect with a mentor couple who can assist and counsel you as you prepare to begin your journey.

Because we are committed to your success, we have not chosen the easy road in developing this workbook. You will be asked some tough questions, and you’ll be given some tough advice. Your preconceptions about engagement, marriage, God and His Word will be tested. And in the process, you will be challenged to peel back the curtain and let who you really are shine through.

Completing this workbook requires commitment—a commitment to make it a priority and schedule the time required; to complete the work, with integrity and honesty. Most importantly, it will require a commitment to see the process through when difficulties challenge you to bail out.

Discovery, risk, challenge, intimacy, commitment, truth—all of these and more are what make marriage the most incredible journey you could ever imagine. Get ready to laugh. Get ready to cry. Get ready to learn. And get ready to experience the joy of a relationship like you’ve never experienced before. 

If you know someone who is planning to be married or a couple whose relationship is becoming more serious, consider recommending this book or, better yet, buying them a set.



Quotations taken from:
Boehi, David; Nelson, Brent; Schulte, Jeff; Shadrach, Lloyd. Preparing for Marriage: Discover God’s Plan for a Lifetime of Love. Gospel Light. Kindle Edition.

You can get a copy of PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE or shop for other resources here.  




Christian bloggers linkup

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Some of the Previously Featured Books:

Last week’s resource was God’s Attributes: Rest for Life’s Struggles by Brad Hambrick. Read about it here.

HELP! I want to Change by Jim Newheiser. Read about it here.

When Life Is Hard by James MacDonald. Read about it here.

Pleasing People: How Not to be an Approval Junkie by Lou Priolo. Read about it here.

If I’m a Christian, Why Am I Depressed?: Finding Meaning and Hope in the Dark Valley One Man’s Journey by Robert B. Somerville. Read about it here.

Anger & Stress Management God’s Way by Wayne Mack. Read about it here.

Praying the Bible by Donald S. Whitney. Read about it here.

Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety by Elyse Fitzpatrick. Read about it here.

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17 thoughts on ““Preparing to BE Married”+ LINKUP

  1. This looks like an excellent book, Donna! I like how the author states marriage is not easy, and it is about commitment. Many of us do get married with the happily ever after mindset, but we don’t realize at the time how much work that takes! I love how you all share this book for the preparing for marriage book at your church. Our pastor gave us a marriage book right before we got married, and we still have it! Thanks for sharing, and for hosting! Hope you have a wonderful week 🙂

    • Yes, it helps so much if couples can go into marriage better prepared! Thanks for stopping by, Kelly. Have a great week.

  2. Hey Donna,
    Good morning. I hope you are doing well today.
    Thanks for the great book suggestion. We are always looking for books to give as engagement presents.
    I found your post today on Social Butterfly.
    Hope your Monday is blessed~

  3. Thanks so much for sharing! The Raineys are some of my favorite authors. My husband and I have read several of their marriage and parent devotionals. Thanks for hosting the linkup as well. Have a blessed week!

  4. My daughter is on the cusp of getting engaged so I appreciate the recommendation for this workbook. Besides just the difficulty that naturally occurs in trying to join 2 lives together, today’s newly marrieds face a society that in many ways is hostile to the very idea of marriage. Instead of supporting a new union, it gives couples every reason to dissolve their commitment at the first sign of struggle and amplifies the needs of ‘self’ over the needs of ‘others.’
    I would also recommend another premarital resource… Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts by Les & Leslie Parrott. I know several couples that have used it and said it is excellent.
    thanks Donna

  5. I still fondly remember our pre-marital counseling (though I can’t remember for the life of me what book we worked through – yikes!) 🙂 Thanks for sharing this at the Booknificent Thursday link-up on Mommynificent.com this week!

  6. Sounds like a very practical book. Most of us are not really prepared for all that marriage entails. We need to go into it with open eyes and trusting the One who can keep us walking together for Him.

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