“What kind of counselor & friend are you?” + LINKUP


Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling WomenWelcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is the Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women by Patricia A. Miller.


We’re all counselors. We’re counseling our friends when they seek our advice. We’re counseling our children when they come home crying because they weren’t invited to the party, they’re struggling in school, or suffering the consequences of a poor decision. We’re counseling others when we write our blogs, teach a Bible study, or lead a Sunday school class.

We’re all counselors. The question is … are we counseling well or not. Are we counseling from our experience? Are we counseling according to popular culture? Or are we counseling according to God’s Word?

While neither I, nor the author, want to reduce the Bible to a set of verses on any given subject, the Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women can help you be a better, more biblical counselor, friend, mom, dad or teacher by leading you to pertinent passages of Scripture.

From the introduction:

The Bible is the grand story of God’s glory manifested in his rescue and restoration of his good but fallen and broken creation. This story is woven through every book in the Bible.

In Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women, each of the topics and verses is a window into the grand mansion that is the Bible. As marvelous as the view is through the windows, it is only when we step inside the grand house— rest in its rooms, explore its many passages and balconies, enjoy its beauty and light— that we will be truly transformed.

When we encounter this grand home’s Master and Maker— Jesus Christ, whose name is written on every wall and reflected on every surface— we will know at last that we are truly home.

The Bible is not just a reference; it is so much more. Please do not get bogged down in the topics or the references. Take time to read, study, memorize, and meditate on the precious Word of God. Let it saturate your life. Keep exploring this mansion for the rest of your life!

They [God’s Words] are not just idle words for you— they are your life. Deuteronomy 32: 47 NIV

About the purpose of the book: 

Though this book covers needs specific to women, it also covers many general areas. However, even in these general areas, verses were chosen to touch a woman’s heart and are studied from a woman’s point of view. The desire is that this book will be a tool and at least a beginning point for further study of Scripture. It also contains a pattern that can be used for studying many other topics.

Counseling is a work of the heart and mind. The biblical principles of God’s Word affect both the counselor and the one counseled. God’s Word is clear. How do people change? People change when their thinking is changed about a difficulty, sin issue, problem, etc.

God’s Word is the tool, measuring stick, and standard to help us see where our thinking does not line up with God’s thinking. When biblical thinking is put in place, biblical actions should follow. The goal is to guide troubled individuals, whatever their problem, into confidence in God and his Word. The true value and success of biblical counseling and discipleship rest in God’s Word and the power of the Holy Spirit in a life.

The world system offers counterfeit theories, programs, steps, and temporary solutions to follow. But again, they belong to the world. They have no solid, God-honoring foundation. We cannot blindly put our confidence in these ideas. Everything we use in our lives and in working with others must line up with God’s Word. There is so much confidence, excitement, and freedom when we use the Word. We do not have to wonder, Will this work? Scripture is always sufficient for any area of life (2 Pet. 1: 3). Every problem, every need, every hurt, and every desire can be met by Scripture. While Scripture may not specifically address a particular issue, scriptural principles are valid to help an individual in every situation.

While this book is aimed at helping us share God’s truth with women, there are two other Quick Scripture References. The first is more general and the second is aimed at helping parents, teachers, and counselors speak to youth.

Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling

Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Youth

I have a copy of each one on my bookshelf and have referred to them many times. I recommend them to all our counseling interns and trainees, but I also recommend them for anyone who wants to have a better grasp of biblical truth and the ability to share it with others when the need arises.

So what kind of a counselor and friend are you? Are you counseling according to the world’s wisdom, based on your experience, or according to popular culture? Or are you counseling according to God’s inerrant, all-sufficient Word? It’s an important question and as believers, we need to be faithful stewards, rightly dividing and sharing the Word of truth. It’s what changes lives!



Quotations taken from:
Miller, Patricia A.. Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women. Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

You can get a copy of Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women or shop for other resources here.  




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Previously featured books:

Taming the To-Do List: How to Choose Your Best Work Every Day by Glynnis Whitwer. Read about it here.

Resolving Everyday Conflict by Ken Sande of Peacemaker Ministries. Read about it here.

Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald. Read about it here.

Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy by Eric Metaxas. Read about it here.

When Life Is Hard by James MacDonald. Read about it here.

Pleasing People: How Not to be an Approval Junkie by Lou Priolo. Read about it here.

Because He Loves Me: How Christ Transforms Our Daily Life by Elyse Fitzpatrick. Read about it here.

Gift-Wrapped by God: Secret Answers to the Question “Why Wait?” by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus. Read about it here.

The Heart of Anger: Practical Help for the Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children by Lou Priolo. Read about it here.

Sweethearts for a Lifetime: Making the Most of Your Marriage by Wayne and Carol Mack. Read about it here.

If I’m a Christian, Why Am I Depressed?: Finding Meaning and Hope in the Dark Valley One Man’s Journey by Robert B. Somerville. Read about it here.

Anger & Stress Management God’s Way by Wayne Mack. Read about it here.

Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex by Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus. Read about it here.

For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn. Read about it here.

Gospel Treason: Betraying the Gospel With Hidden Idols by Brad Bigney. Read about it here.

Family Worship by Donald S. Whitney. Read about it here.

Seven Men: And the Secret of Their Greatness by Eric Metaxas. Read about it here.

Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem by Robert D. Jones. Read about it here.

Praying the Bible by Donald S. Whitney. Read about it here.

Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety by Elyse Fitzpatrick. Read about it here
Foxe’s Book of Martyrs by by John Foxe, editied by Harold J. Chadwick. Read about it here.


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14 thoughts on ““What kind of counselor & friend are you?” + LINKUP

  1. I never thought about it that way before, Donna. This book sounds like an excellent resource for counseling from the Word. Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope you will join the link up again this week 🙂

  2. I agree with the others, this looks like an excellent resource. As a pastor’s wife, I often find myself in the position of counsellor, so something like this book would be super helpful! 🙂 I’m stopping by from Faith Filled Friday.
    Jen @ Being Confident of This

  3. Thanks for sharing this at #LMMLinkup! It’s true that we all are counselors anytime we try to help and advise someone else. Good reminder that we need to have a good Biblical foundation and be continually studying to make sure we are acting according to God’s word. Blessings to you!

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