The Excellent Wife + LINKUP


Welcome to Mondays @ Soul Survival. Each week I feature a book that I consider a valuable resource. This week’s selection is one that has helped many women get a more biblically balanced view of our role, our responsibilities, and our blessings.


The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace.


The Excellent WifeThere are many books available today on marriage and on how to be the husband or wife that God has called you to be. I’ve read a number of them and, perhaps, so have you.

But Martha’s book is different from many of them. First of all, it’s not new. In fact, in my opinion, it’s a classic when it comes to biblical books on the wife’s role in marriage. It was first published in 1995. Martha wrote it because, as a biblical counselor seeking to help other women, she needed solid material to use in her counseling and, at that time, there was little available.

In the years since, it has been used by countless women and countless counselors, including myself. I have read and re-read it. I’ve taught it in the classroom and I’ve used it over and over in my counseling ministry. I’ve shared it with young women and with seasoned veterans to marriage. I’ve found it to be the most comprehensive, biblical book there is. My copy is highlighted, dog-eared, and full of notes on every blank space.

Just Another Book about Submission?


Someone out there is thinking … “Oh no, another book about submission!”

Submission is in there, because it’s part of how God has called us to live, but so is how to make a biblical appeal and how to lovingly confront your husband when he’s sinning, along with when to go to your church, and when to call the authorities because of abuse.

But the bulk of the book is about how to live out biblical womanhood on a practical, day by day basis, bringing glory to God in the process.

In the first section, Martha covers God’s protective authority, His provision for wives, His pattern for relationships, His purpose for marriage, and the wife’s role.

In the second section, she covers the heart and how it can be focused on false gods instead of Christ, also, the home, the God-kind of love, respect, intimacy and submission.

In the third section, she explains how submission is the basis for God’s protection and lists His resources for a woman’s protection. She, also, talks about the key to our motivation, the control of the tongue, and the importance of a quiet and gentle spirit.

And in the last section, Martha talks about some of our struggles: impatience, anxiety, and a lack of oneness.

If you haven’t read The Excellent Wife, whether your marriage is solid or you know you need help, it would be an great resource. Or if you minister to women who are struggling in their marriages, you may want to read it and add it to your library.



Quotations taken from:
Peace, Martha. The Excellent Wife. Focus Publishing.


You can get a copy of The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective or shop for other resources here.



Christian bloggers linkup

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Some of the Previously Featured Books:

Last week’s resource was Strengthening Your Marriage by Dr. Wayne Mack. Read about it here.

Some of the Others:

The God Empowered Wife: How Strong Women Can Help Their Husbands Become Godly Leaders by K.B. (Karen) Haught. Read it here.

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong by Leslie Vernick. Read about it here.

The Power of Prayer in a Believer’s Life be Charles Spurgeon. Read about it here.

If I’m a Christian, Why Am I Depressed?: Finding Meaning and Hope in the Dark Valley One Man’s Journey by Robert B. Somerville. Read about it here.

I sometimes LINKUP with these blogs:

Mondays Making Your Home Sing Musing Mondays Raising Samuels Darling Downs Diaries Mom to Mom Mondays The Life of Faith The Modest Mom The Art of Homemaking Our Home of Many Blessings Desperate Homeschoolers The Beauty in His Grip
Tuesdays Cornerstone Confessions Testimony Tuesdays Tell It to Me Tuesday Purposeful Faith Tuesday Talk Intentional Tuesday
Wednesdays A Wise Woman Builds Her Home A Little R & R Seeking God in All I Do Coffee for Your Heart Messy Marriage Woman to Woman Oh My Heartsie Girls
Thursdays Frog’s Lily Pad Booknificent Thursdays Children Are a Blessing 3-D Lessons for Life Life of Scoop
Fridays Create with Joy Missional Women Coffeeshop Conversations Grace & Truth Faith & Friends
Saturdays Snippets of Inspiration Word of God Speak
Sundays Spiritual Sundays Give Me Grace

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21 thoughts on “The Excellent Wife + LINKUP

  1. I just ordered ‘The Excellent Wife’. I can’t wait to read it! I have been married 29 years and I am continuously trying to be a ‘good wife’. But now I want to be excellent. My husband works hard and I am a homemaker and I just want to be a blessing to him! 🙂

  2. Thanks for yet again another great resource, Donna. My oldest son was asking me what blogs I like to read and I had to tell him that yours was one of my favorites. You always give us the heads up on incredible resources like this one. Thanks so much for the linkup too!

    • Thank you, Beth. Coming from you, that’s a great compliment. Having just retired from my full-time job, I’m looking forward to reading a lot more of your blog. I’m always blessed! I hope one day our paths cross in person!

    • That’s so true, Debbie. My husband and I are going on 34 years and still learning and growing. I hope we never stop. Blessings on your next 47 years!

  3. The Excellent Wife is one of my favorite books and I have bought it for friends as well as recommended it to many! I love Martha’s sweet, but truthful approach in it. I think it is a book women should read every year as a refresher! 🙂

  4. Donna,

    Thank you so much for sharing a review of The Excellent Wife. Whenever I hear of a book that is completely dog-eared, I know it is a very good book.

    I love books that mentor and this sounds like just that kind of book.


    • I’m going through it right now with another pastor’s wife. She says she is learning so much. I know I’m reminded of things that convict and inspire me each time I read it. Thanks for stopping by, Karen, have a great week!

    • I agree, Gwen. I went to a conference a couple of summers ago where she was teaching and she said she believes her most important book is Attitudes of a Transformed Heart. That is one I have yet to read and want to get to soon. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  5. I bought this book several years ago before I was married and now that I am married, I really want to dig into it. Now that I read your glowing review, I think I might do it really soon!!

    • I want to encourage you to do it soon. I so wish I had known the things Martha teaches when I first got married! Happy reading! Thanks for stopping by!

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