“Why me? Why now? Why my family?” August 11


Why Me? Why Now? Why My Family? -


“Why me?” It’s a question that is often on our lips. Why is this happening? Why me? Why now? Why my kids, my family, my job, my health? But … are we asking the right questions?


Today’s Readings:
Job 13 & 14
Psalm 94.12-19
Proverbs 22.26-27
Romans 11.1-18


Why me? Why now? Why my family?


Job 13 & 14:

Demanding Answers


In chapter 13, after strongly rebuking his friends, Job turns his attention directly to God. He is at a loss to understand why all this calamity has come on him. In chapter 14 he talks to God about the frailness of humanity and seems to prepare himself to die, perhaps even yearning for it.

Be sure to read MacArthur’s notes for today’s readings. He jumps ahead to some of the later chapters as he explains that Job’s problem was not the belief that he was righteous, as his friends thought, but his over-familiarity in demanding an answer to why he was suffering such hardship.

We, too, can be tempted to demand answers to our “whys.” While I don’t believe God is put-off by sincere questions from his hurting children, we need to remember that He is God and we are not! Isaiah 55.8-9:

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways,
And My thoughts than your thoughts.

In chapter 40 we will see Job’s reaction after God responded to all his why’s. He said, “I lay my hand over my mouth” (Job 40.4).

So what should we ask when going through a test or trial? 


Why Me? Why Now? Why My Family? - "Why me?" It's a question that is often on our lips. Why is this happening? Why me? Why now? Why my kids, my family, my job, my health? But ... are we asking the right questions?


First, we should ask God to help us examine our own lives for reasons.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting (Ps. 139.23-24).

Is there some area of unconfessed sin?

He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy (Prov. 28.13).

We can ask Him to help us grow in our trial.

My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing (Jas. 1.2-4).

We should ask for His wisdom to respond righteously to our trial.

 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways (Jas. 1.5-8).

Tests and trials come for many reasons, some because of our own actions and others as a result of living in a sin cursed world. But nothing can happen in our lives that is not first filtered through God’s loving hands. Even when He allows a hardship for his holy purposes, He always mixes it with His blessings and His grace … if we will but look for them.

He promises that those trials will not be more than we can handle if we stay connected to Him and rely on His strength (1 Cor. 10.13). And we can trust His promise to use our trials for good and to help us become more like His Son (Rom. 8.28-29).

Finally, when we think about asking “why,” let’s also ask, “Why His blessings and favor?” and, especially, “Why would He die for us when we were still His enemies?”


Today’s Other Readings:


Psalm 94.12-19:

He Will Not Cast Us Off


In verse 14 God promises that He will not cast off His people. Even though this psalm is talking about the Jewish people, in particular, He has made the same promise to us, “For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you'” (Heb. 13.5b).


Proverbs 22.26-27:

Co-Signing for Loans


signature co-signingThese two verses warn us not to take on someone else’s debts—not to co-sign for loans, etc. Instead, if someone is in need we should help them when biblically appropriate and our circumstances allow—give them food and other necessities, or money without expecting to be repaid.

Often, someone we love and care about will ask us to co-sign for them and it seems unloving to refuse. This can be especially difficult when it’s our grown children or others close to us. But often, their situation is the result of bad choices and we can get in the way and short-circuit God’s work in their lives. At other times, it’s simply not wisdom for them to take on a debt. We need to trust God’s sovereignty in their lives and His wisdom in ours.


Romans 11.1-18:

God’s Covenant People Israel


Israel flagPaul reminds us here in our New Testament reading that God has not cast aside His covenant people, the Jews. He has promised there will always be a remnant of faithful Jews.

And He has promised to bless those who bless Israel and curse those who curse her (Gen. 12.3). All of this plays into what is happening in the Middle East today. They are God’s people. We are to pray for Israel as Paul did (Rom. 10.1) and, as a nation, stand with her.


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2 thoughts on ““Why me? Why now? Why my family?” August 11

  1. Hi Donna, My husband and I have been reflecting on Job’s life lately as we’ve been experiencing trials. Your words this morning made me think of the notes I had made in the margins of my bible in the book of Job. I had noted that I ask “why?” a lot. I wrote it to wrap my mind around the possibility that I may never know the why and to change my thinking about my trials. I need to be thinking about my response to my trials instead of feeling sorry for myself. My husband asked the other night when we would see relief, we’ve had what seems like a lot of struggles in the past few years. And, in a half joking way I told him that Jesus was coming soon. Meaning that, as Christians we will face all kins of trouble in this world, and we may not see relief until this life’s over. I am going to share your words with my husband later, thank you for writing them, Heidi

    • I’m so glad my words resonated with you. Whatever we experience in this life has a purpose even when we don’t understand, but that can be hard to accept this side of heaven. I prayed for you when I read your comment. I’m praying that all this draws you and your husband closer to each other and to Him and that you experience His peace and joy in an incredible way today.

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