“Wives, are you rotten?” March 20


Wives, are you rotten?


Rotten: It means something that is decaying or infected.

Ladies, our Proverbs passage tells us we can be like rotten fruit to our husbands! But we have a choice. We can, also, choose to be like crowns bringing them honor through our lives. Which one are you?


Today’s Readings:
Deuteronomy 1 & 2
Psalm 36.1-6
Proverbs 12.4-6
Mark 16.1-20


Wives, are you rotten?


Proverbs 12.4-6:

Excellent or Rotten?


Verse 4 says, “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.”

Wives, do you do things which cause your husband shame? The way you talk? The way you dress? The way you criticize him in front of others? Does he consider you a “crown” to him or more like rotten fruit?

Are you an excellent wife? Proverbs 31 talks a lot about what it means to be an excellent wife. Among other things, she is trustworthy in all her behavior. She’s industrious, not lazy. She’s generous. She seeks to be organized and prepares for the future. She cares about her appearance, but she understand that inner beauty is the most important part of becoming the woman God wants her to be.

She’s faithful with her responsibilities and that frees her husband to be who God wants him to be. She is faithful to grow in her understanding of God’s Word and it’s reflected in her speech and character. She values her testimony. She wants others to see the light of Christ in her life.

Now a question for you husbands. Do you value what God values in a wife? What are you doing to help her become that “excellent wife”? Do you love her sacrificially? Do you pray for her? Do you read and study the Bible with her?

Ephesians 5.25-26, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word.”

Finally parents, are you teaching your daughters to be excellent wives and are you teaching your sons to value what is really important in a wife? If our young people don’t learn to value those things early, we can’t think they will value them later.




Deuteronomy 1 & 2:

Second Law


Deuteronomy means “second law.” God through Moses sums up the events of the Exodus: their travels, their failures (including Moses’ own), and their successes. It’s not really a “second law,” but a repeating of the law. This is the last of the first five books of the Old Testament, also called the Pentateuch.

Some scholars believe it’s the most important book in the Old Testament. So stay tuned in the days to come for a great walk through Deuteronomy.


Psalm 36.1-6:

He Preserves Man & Beast


Verses 1-4 talk about the wicked. The last phrase says, “He does not abhor evil.” Have you ever met someone like that, someone who seems to enjoy his wickedness? Some even brag about the fact they’re headed for hell! But the last two verses remind us that God is still in control no matter how much evil we find in the world around us.

5 Your mercy, O LORD, is in the heavens;
Your faithfulness reaches to the clouds.
6 Your righteousness is like the great mountains;
Your judgments are a great deep;
O LORD, You preserve man and beast.


He is risen


Mark 16.1-20:

He is risen!


I love those three words in the middle of verse 6, “He is risen.” Think about that as we approach this Easter season. He is risen! He who was dead is alive! Death and the grave could not hold Him!


Closing Thoughts:

Does your life reflect the fact that we serve a risen all powerful Savior? Do you rely on His grace to help you become the man, the woman, the friend, the husband, the wife, the son, the daughter … He’s called you to be?



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6 thoughts on ““Wives, are you rotten?” March 20

  1. The title and visual really add punch to these truths! I find that while I may not be actively doing wrong to him, I don’t always think of ways to intentionally do my husband good beyond the everyday duties of listening, keeping the house, etc., so thank you for giving e something to think about.

  2. Oh, my your questions, left me wondering and concerned. I am no Proverbs 31 woman 100% of the time that is for sure. I am a work in progress, and your post left me thinking. Does he consider me a “crown” to him or more like rotten fruit? I think I have some work to do.

    Thank you for your insightful post.

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